I could not agree more with her observation. (I also adore the use of her word "tosh"- I may start using it)
So I started to realize, while flipping through the latest arrival of "mommy magazines" to hit my mailbox, that the images you see in magazines for parents do not resemble IN ANY WAY what a real mom (or Dad) and her life looks like, either.
I subscribe to way more magazines than
What I am seeing in these magazines are young, slim, healthy-looking moms who play ring-around-the-rosy with their adoring infants in fabulously furnished living rooms out of Architectural Digest. Last time I checked, that was clearly not me. I need to see some pictures of a mom whose runny-nosed kid is hanging on her leg as she opens a can of Spaghetti-o's next to a sink full of last night's dirty dishes that her husband may or may not have left in the kitchen when he got home from work around midnight.
Then I could relate.
And I love the photo of a "mother" in the article about getting your pre-preggers body back. I am sorry, but unless this magazine comes with a gift certificate to Dr. Nip/Tuck and his happy scalpel, there is no way my body will EVER. LOOK. LIKE. THAT.
Even the photos in the "natural parenting" magazines are totally misleading. Take one pic, for example, of a serene new mama, blissfully breastfeeding her baby in public. I have definitely nursed my babies in public places and it was anything but blissful or serene. A picture of me in this instance, would resemble a mama gorilla trying to hold a flailing baby pinned against her chest, while attempting to hide, no, not my breasts <gasp>, but all that sexy belly fat creeping out from under the nursing shirt that just doesn't fit the way it did the "nursing" model in the catalog.
How about the one of the jaunty, well-coifed working mom, in her snazzy suit, juggling a happy baby on one arm and her Coach briefcase on the other? I don't know how any mom can get out of the house without at least one yogurt stain on her clothes, and I can tell you, that my baby was rarely so jovial when I left the house.
Which brings me to the next question - where do they get all these happy freaking kids to pose for the pictures? Are they slipping something into the sippy cups or what? No mother gets to see so much enthusiasm and cooperation from her kids, ever! Especially when the camera is on them.
I understand that these magazines want to make mothering look healthy and happy and fun, because it truly is. But I think that sometimes when we see pictures like these, we can't help but feel a little inferior. It is hard to live up to the images planted in our brains by these super-model mommies living in the perfect home with their well-dressed kids and Pottery Barn lifestyle. Or by the super-eco-friendly mommies whose every waking moment is dedicated to raising enviro-conscientious, pesticide-free stewards of the Earth.
I do what I can to make sure my kids are well-adjusted, well-fed, and well-educated. But most of all, I want them to know that they are loved and that our life is just as it should be with them in it.
I think it would be nice to see some pictures that look like us, boogers and all, every once in a while.
Who is with me?